Dating as a senior can be both exciting and a little nerve-wracking. Before everything else, it’s important to keep your safety in mind.
Let’s talk about three ways to protect yourself while exploring the dating world.
Do a Little Homework
Before you get too invested, take some time to verify who you’re talking to. This might sound a bit paranoid, but online scammers often target seniors, so it’s better to be safe than sorry. A video call is also a good idea before meeting in person—it’s a simple way to confirm you’re chatting with a real person.
Start by searching their name or any details they’ve shared. Look for consistent stories and photos across different platforms. If something feels off—like if they’re being evasive or asking for money—trust your gut and proceed with caution.
Say you meet someone on a dating site, and they seem great, but their profile is pretty sparse. You do a quick online search and find their social media, but the details don’t match up, or their photos look too polished. This could be a sign to tread carefully and maybe move on.
Stick to Public Places
For the first few dates, make sure you meet in public, well-populated places like a coffee shop, restaurant, or park. It’s just a smart move to keep things safe and low-pressure.
Really, pick a place you’re familiar with and feel comfortable in. You also want to tell a friend about your plans. And make sure you have your own way to get to and from the date so that you’re not relying on your date for a ride.
For example, suppose you’re meeting someone new for coffee. Instead of letting them pick you up at your senior living facility, drive yourself or take public transport to a busy café. If they offer to give you a ride home, politely decline and stick to your plan. This way, you keep control of your own safety.
Trust Your Gut and Set Clear Boundaries
Again, if something doesn’t feel right, it’s okay to back out. Don’t be afraid to set boundaries and stick to them. If someone doesn’t respect your limits, that’s a red flag, and you have every right to move on.
If you’re uncomfortable, don’t hesitate to leave or ask for help. It’s always okay to prioritize your safety. You might even arrange for a friend to call you during the date as a way to check in or give you an out if things aren’t going well. Remember, it’s better to be safe than sorry.
Dating should be fun and exciting, but it’s also important to stay aware and protect yourself. By taking these simple steps, you can enjoy your dating adventures with more confidence and peace of mind. Happy dating!